Self-care is selfish, right?

Doing things to take care of you makes you self-centered. It means you cannot do all the other things on your to-do list. It means your children/parents/spouse/work are going to have to take a backseat. It means you spend time and sometimes money on you, and that is truly selfish. And, as tired as you feel, it is going to take a lot of time to feel human again. That, too, is selfish.


Taking the time to engage in self-care is the opposite of selfish. Healthy self-care gives you the space and energy to be able to give to others, to be more focused, and to have more peace of mind.

But it takes time and money, you say, to go for massages or to the gym or to eat healthy foods. True, but self-care does not have to be a huge drain on your schedule or your bank account.

True self-care is intentionally or purposely choosing to take care of your mental, emotional, spiritual, social, and physical needs. Some simple ways to engage in healthy self-care include:

  • Deep breathing
  • Having a bubble bath
  • Going for a walk
  • Listening to your favorite music
  • Meditation or prayer
  • Laughter
  • Choosing fruit or veggies for a snack instead of chips or a cookie
  • Savoring a piece of chocolate
  • Listening to the sounds of nature
  • Walking barefoot in the grass
  • Spending time in nature

Whatever you choose to do, make it intentional – do it on purpose and with purpose. Do it to take better care of you because you positively do deserve it!

Peace ~ sjv